10 Frenulum Massage Techniques For Explosive Orgasms

The frenulum is a sensitive (which can be both good and bad!) part of the penis, and stimulating it can be intensely pleasurable. It needs to be treated nicely, though, so read on to learn more about this often-overlooked little gem.

What Is the Frenulum?

The genital frenulum is a narrow ridge under the penis gland that connects the foreskin to the shaft. As with all anatomical features, it can vary in size and appearance, especially among circumcised penises.

The frenulum is packed with sensory nerve terminals and Pacinian receptors and is the most sensitive and responsive part of the penis. It is often compared to the clitoris and should be treated with the same care and respect.

How to Achieve a Frenulum Orgasm

Not every person with a penis can achieve a frenulum orgasm, just like not everyone can achieve a prostate orgasm, a vaginal orgasm, or a G-spot orgasm. Our bodies are all different and react differently, and sex (solo or partnered) should be about exploring and feeling good.

So we’re going to write about frenulum orgasms, because who doesn’t like orgasms? But we’re also going to emphasize that the real goal here is learning what you like and enjoying your body (or your partner’s body).

Just so you know, it usually takes longer for a person to orgasm from frenulum stimulation than through penetrative sex. Don’t think that something’s wrong if it doesn’t happen right away. Relax and lean into the sensations, and let it happen naturally if it’s going to happen.

Here are the top ten things to keep in mind during frenulum play:

1. Practice Safety and Hygiene

“Safe sex” is frequently associated with condom use, and we certainly think that can be important, but there’s a lot more to sexual health.

1. Wash your hands before touching sensitive body parts.
2. Make sure that your fingernails are short and filed smooth.
3. Thoroughly clean all sex toys both before and after use.
4. Test any new lubes or lotions on the inside of your arm before letting them near your genitals.

2. Relax

Your brain is your largest sex organ, and it needs foreplay as much as any other body part. Get yourself in the right mindset by practicing deep breathing, taking a warm bath or shower, and setting yourself up in a comfortable bed, couch, or chair. Put on your favorite music or adult content.

3. Tease and Please the Frenulum

Apply your favorite lube to the penis head and shaft. Water-based lube is the gold standard since it is safe to use with sex toys and condoms, and it is almost always body-friendly. It can dry out quickly, though, so you will need to keep it handy to reapply as needed.

Oil-based lube or food-grade oils are less likely to dry out but cannot be used with latex condoms or some sex toys. Silicone lubes are condom-safe but not compatible with silicone sex toys.

Gently touch and rub the frenulum with your finger. Start with a light touch to get used to the sensations, and increase pressure and pace as you (or your partner) feel comfortable. If you are stimulating a partner, you can also use your tongue to lick and stroke the frenulum.

4. Try the Fingertip-Tapping Technique

Gently cup your palm at the base of the penis so that your fingers are resting where the penis head and shaft meet. Use your thumb and index finger to lightly tap up and down the frenulum and surrounding area. Increase the pace and pressure when you (or your partner) is ready. You can also use your index finger to stroke the head of the penis.

Pro Tip: Try this technique with your non-dominant hand for an even lighter feel.

5. Use the Palm of Your Hand To Massage the Frenulum

Gently cup your palm at the base of the penis so that your fingers stretch to the top of the penis. Use your other hand to stabilize the shaft. Rock your palm back and forth to massage the frenulum without breaking contact.

This is a somewhat advanced technique and is likely to work best with people who have been “training” their penises to respond to frenulum stimulation.

6. Try a Circular Motion

Caress the penis with your thumb and index finger, and use your index finger to trace small circles under the penis head. Start out gently and increase the intensity as you (or your partner) desire.

Pro Tip: We wrote above that some of the nerves and receptors in the frenulum are similar to those in the clitoris. If you have a clitoris and are learning to stimulate a frenulum, try using the same kind of circular motion that feels good on the clit.

7. Tickle the Frenulum With Your Fingertips

Remember that the frenulum is extremely sensitive. A light tickle feels good to many folks, but it may be too intense for some.

If you are playing with a partner’s penis and frenulum, remember that communication is always important, but especially when you’re trying things that may be new to both of you. Keep checking in with your partner and watch for non-verbal cues.

8. Apply Pressure With Your Thumb

It’s evidence of good design that most hands match up with most penises pretty well! Wrap your hand around the penis with your thumb on the frenulum area. Move your thumb side-to-side or up-and-down like you were operating a joystick (and really, you are).

9. Make Circular Motions With Your Tongue

While there are a few folks who are able to do this to themselves, this is obviously a technique that is better suited to partner play. Use your tongue to stimulate the frenulum. If you have a clitoris, use similar movements to what you like on your clit. You can also lick up and down the shaft.

10. Introduce a Vibrator

We mentioned the Pacinian receptors above; these guys are sensitive to vibrations, and this is one reason why vibrators feel so good on the frenulum (or the clitoris).

You can, of course, use a bullet vibrator or a small wand vibrator, but there are some great penis-specific sex toys that are designed to direct the vibrations where they matter most. We recommend the Lovense Gush 2 and Arcwave Ion 2.

Aftercare

Aftercare is important after new and/or intense experiences, and frenulum stimulation and frenulum orgasms can definitely fall into that category. And, aftercare isn’t just for partnered sex. You can care for yourself the same way that you would want a partner to care for you.

Take some time to come down and re-center. Use a soft cloth to clean your body and apply gentle, unscented lotion or coconut oil to soothe any irritation. Enjoy a cool drink to rehydrate. Think about what you enjoyed from this experience, what you might like to do differently next time, and what you’d rather not do again. If this was partnered play, share these thoughts with your partner and invite their thoughts and feedback.

Common Concerns

The frenulum is a part of the penis that is not celebrated enough, and this also means that frenulum stimulation and frenulum orgasms may be new to you. Some common challenges and concerns include:

• Sensitivity Issues: The frenulum is highly sensitive and stimulation can feel very intense. This can be incredibly pleasurable, but it can also be overwhelming if you’re not used to it. Start out with a light, slow touch and only ramp it up if and when you are ready. It’s also okay to play this way for a minute or two and then move on. Don’t skimp on lube, which reduces friction.
• Performance Pressure: Make it your goal to enjoy yourself and learn more about your body (or your partner’s body). We have absolutely nothing negative to say about orgasms, but they don’t always happen when we want or the way we want — and that’s okay! They are a renewable resource and they’ll still be there tomorrow. Relax and focus on the sensations instead.
• Experimentation: We’ve laid out techniques that our sex educators have found to work for many folks. However, we urge you to take what you want, leave the rest, and add anything that suits you. There is no one right way to do this!

Happy exploring!

Maggie

Maggie Hart has written about sexual well-being and sexuality in society for quite a few years now. She is active in communities that celebrate sex for older adults.

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