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How to Set Up and Use Smart Sex Toys – A Complete Guide

Technology is rapidly evolving, and that certainly is true in the world of sex toys. We’re in a new era of modern intimacy, one where technology allows people to connect with themselves and their partners on a deeper level and experience a wide range of pleasure.
Much of that is thanks to the rise of smart sex toys. These are sexual wellness products that include things like app or remote controlled sex toys, toys with customizable settings, and ones that allow for long distance play.
As revolutionary and innovative as these toys are, as with any tech product, it can sometimes take a bit of time to get used to it. But with the right guidance, the learning curve is minimal when learning how to use smart sex toys. Have no fear, we’re here to help you not only learn how to properly set up and use your smart sex toys, but also how to be aware of important matters like your privacy and security.
What Are Smart Sex Toys?
So what exactly makes a sex choice more? Furthermore, why would someone want to buy a smart sex toy when they can just buy an old-fashioned one?
Well, to each their own, but for many people smart sex toys open the doors to pleasure and possibilities. Unlike traditional toys, sex tech products may include features like Bluetooth/Wi-Fi connectivity, app control, haptic feedback, and interactive modes. Some of the most common types of smart sex toys include remote vibrators, smart strokers, and couples’ toys.
Smart adult toys can help to make pleasure more accessible for those with certain disabilities or for people who are in long-distance relationships (a great use for app-controlled sex toys). Some people want to explore different types of pleasure, something that smart sex toys allow you to do.
How to Set Up a Smart Sex Toy
Once you decide what you want to get started with, you’ll also need to know how to use smart sex toys.
- Unboxing and Charging: Congrats on your fancy new toy, now you get to unbox it and start to get a feel for what you’re in for. Don’t forget to fully charge your device before you use it!
- Downloading the Companion App: If your toy has an app to go along with it, now’s a great time to download it. Most LELO toys come with a QR code you can scan to find the app or you can download it from the App Store.
- Enabling Bluetooth or Wi-Fi Connection: To enable Bluetooth or Wi-Fi, turn your toy on by holding the power button until a light blinks or it vibrates. Most toys enter pairing mode automatically; if not, hold the button longer until the light flashes rapidly.
- Pairing with a Smartphone: Once your toy is in pairing mode, open the companion app and follow the prompts to connect.
- Granting Necessary Permissions: The app may need your permission to access certain types of data and other information to best assist you in using your toy. You’ll need to agree to these to move forward and use your app-enabled toy.
Using Smart Sex Toys: Features and Functions
The best smart vibrators let you literally take your pleasure into your own hands. While you likely bought the toy to enjoy its advanced features, it’s nice to have the option to use it manually as well! Smart sex toys typically can be used in manual or app-controlled mode. In manual mode, you use buttons on the toy itself to cycle through vibration patterns and intensities. In app-controlled mode, you can adjust settings more precisely, access extra features, or let a partner control it remotely.
The app-controlled mode lets you truly personalize your experience. Most sex tech apps allow you to adjust vibration patterns, intensities, and even create your own custom routines. No matter what you’re looking for, the app gives you full control to match your mood and desires. Your app will give you more detailed instructions on how to adjust the settings for your ideal experience.
A really cool use of app-controlled sex toys is the ability to connect with a partner remotely. That means your partner can control your pleasure no matter where in the world you both are! When it comes to interactive sex toys, more and more of these products are allowing you to sync them with audio, video, or VR content for an enhanced, customized experience.
Troubleshooting Common Issues
As with any technology, sex tech can also require a bit of troubleshooting from time to time.
If your smart toy isn’t pairing or keeps disconnecting, you can start with the basics. First, you’ll want to make sure that your toy is fully charged and your device’s Bluetooth or Wi-Fi is turned on. Restarting both the toy and your phone can often resolve connection glitches. For Bluetooth toys, make sure your phone is close enough to the toy to pair.
If the app isn’t responding or it keeps crashing, be sure to check for updates in the App Store or Google Play. You can also try clearing the app’s cache or reinstalling it entirely to help fix bugs and improve performance. Always grant the necessary permissions for the app to function correctly, including Bluetooth, location, and notifications, if you don’t do this, you may experience glitches.
If you’re having issues with your battery, make sure you’re using the original charging cable and that your port is clean. If your device is lagging during remote play, try switching to a stronger Wi-Fi network or limiting interference from other Bluetooth devices nearby. Just like an unstable Wi-Fi connection can affect your laptop or phone, it can also affect your Wi-Fi vibrators!
Privacy and Security Considerations
These toys often have access to your data and information, which is completely normal for all different types of devices. Still, it’s understandable to be weary about your privacy and security.
You can help protect your privacy by choosing a brand with strong security features that prioritizes your security through measures like data encryption (like LELO).
Avoid using public Wi-Fi when pairing or playing remotely, instead opting for a secure, private network instead. Only grant the app permissions it needs to run the app and use the device, and regularly check for software or firmware updates that patch security vulnerabilities. You’ll also want to create a strong password for your account and enable two-factor authentication if it allows you to do so.
Using a secure network or a VPN when on a public network can also help to ensure safe online interactions when using Wi-Fi enabled toys.
Cleaning and Maintaining Smart Sex Toys
Smart sex toys may need some extra care to keep functioning for years to come. Be sure to always turn off and unplug your toy before cleaning it. Use a damp cloth with mild, unscented soap or a toy cleaning spray to gently wipe the surface. Avoid charging ports or any openings when cleaning it. Only submerge toys that are fully waterproof, avoiding harsh chemicals or alcohol-based cleaners. After cleaning your toy, let it air dry before storing it in its own bag or pouch.
Just like your phone, computer, and other devices, you’ll need to keep your app updated to ensure it keeps running smoothly! If it’s being glitchy, chances are your app may need an update.
Time to Use Your Smart Toy
Smart sex toys are an incredible way to explore your body, experience new types of pleasure, and stay intimate across long distances. It’s also just fun to experiment with new technology.
This is your device and you get to explore it and make it your own. So consider this your opportunity to explore features to help better your experience. Last of all, this is your body and your pleasure, so enjoy!
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