7 Lazy Sex Positions For Minimum Effort But Maximum Satisfaction

I’m not lazy. I’m on energy-saving mode. — Dancing Snail

Great sex is often dynamic, powerful, and vigorous. But “lazy” sex can also be pretty great, especially when you’re craving connection and fulfillment more than a workout routine.

Lazy sex can come in the morning, at the end of a long day, or sometimes even at the end of a lengthy sex session. Lazy sex also works well if one or both of you are experiencing some physical limitations; there’s no reason why you should have to also limit your sex life.

Keep reading for our list of the best lazy sex positions!

1. Spooning

Spooning is probably the ultimate lazy sex position. It’s cozy, cuddly, and connected. It’s also not at all physically demanding, and once you’re in position, you don’t have to make any big moves.

However, this is still very satisfying sex both during and especially after the act — since neither of you is carrying the other’s body weight, you can stay connected for some meaningful aftercare. Low effort does not have to mean low reward!

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies on their side on the bed with their knees bent, curled into a half-moon position.
2. The penetrating partner lies on their side behind the receiving partner, facing the same direction.
3. The receiving partner lifts their top leg (or puts a firm cushion between their knees to lift the top leg), and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

2. Flat Doggy (Prone)

“Flat doggy” sounds kind of ominous, but this variation on doggy-style is actually a relaxed but still very intimate way to have sex. There’s a lot of full-body contact and your faces are right next to each other, so you can whisper in each other’s ears (with some bonus neck kissing!).

Depending on both partners’ anatomies, rocking often works better than thrusting, which is perfect when you’re feeling lazy.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies on their stomach on the bed with their legs spread and stretched out. They can put a pillow under their hips to adjust the angle if desired.
2. The penetrating partner lies face-down on top of the receiving partner, between their legs.
3. The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

3. Lazy Man

This position is lazier for the penetrating partner since the receiving partner controls the depth and pace of penetration, but it’s definitely not strenuous for either partner. It is very pleasurable, though!

Deep penetration is possible, and you’re face-to-face for deep kissing too. The receiving partner can use their hands or a small vibrator for clitoral stimulation if they want.

What We’re Doing

1. The penetrating partner sits on the bed with legs out in front. They can lean back against the headboard for support, which will allow them to better support the receiving partner. They can also bend their legs and the receiving partner can lean back against them for support.
2. The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner’s lap, facing them.
3. The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

4. Flat Missionary

This is a variation on classic missionary that works well when you’re both feeling lazy. The receiving partner keeps their legs together, which means that the penetrating partner can’t really thrust vigorously and you’re rocking together instead.

Missionary is already a very connected and intimate position, and this adds an extra layer of sensuality. It’s really very lovely as well as more than a little lazy.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with their legs together. They can put a firm cushion under their hips for better access and a better angle.
2. The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, face-to-face.
3. The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

5. Lotus

The lotus is a classic yoga pose, and while yoga isn’t exactly lazy, it can be very relaxing. This position, and other seated sex positions, tend to favor rocking and grinding over the kind of thrusting that counts as your cardio for the day. This makes them well-suited for lazy sex.

Lotus is both physically and emotionally intimate since you are intertwined and facing each other; remember that lazy doesn’t have to mean boring!

What We’re Doing

1. The penetrating partner sits with their legs crossed in front of them (if the penetrating partner has thick legs and this would block access to their genitals, they can also sit with their feet flat on the floor). They can lean back against the couch, chair back, or headboard, which will allow them to support more of the receiving partner’s weight.
2. The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner’s lap, facing them.
3. The receiving partner wraps their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist and back. The penetrating partner can grasp the receiving partner’s hips to help support them.
4. The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

6. Curled Spoon

Spooning is so perfect for lazy, comfortable sex that we’re including a second variation. In this one, the legs are intertwined. The spoons don’t nest as neatly but it’s worth it.

Penetration is deeper and the angle may be better for G-spot stimulation.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies on their side with their knees bent. They bring their top leg forward as far as it can go and brace it on the bed.
2. The penetrating partner lies on their side behind the receiving partner and puts their top leg between the receiving partner’s legs.
3. The receiving partner leans forward and pushes their hips back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

7. Mutual Masturbation

This fits the definition of lazy sex because you don’t have to “worry” about your partner’s orgasm. Yes, we all love helping our partners climax, but it does take focus and sometimes effort. Most of us have been pleasuring ourselves since we were teenagers, and at this point, it’s almost muscle memory.

Mutual masturbation is a great way to share intimacy and orgasms with your partner even if you don’t have the mental or physical wherewithal to be generous in the moment. It’s also super sexy to watch your partner be absorbed in their own pleasure!

What We’re Doing

1. Both partners make themselves comfortable on the bed, couch, chair, or wherever else they can relax and still see and hear each other.
2. Both partners pleasure themselves. Feel free to introduce sex toys for either or both of you!

Maggie Hart has written about sexual well-being and sexuality in society for quite a few years now. She is active in communities that celebrate sex for older adults.

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