7 Easy Sex Positions For Beginners You Should Try

These “easy” sex positions are great for folks who are new to sex (either with each other or altogether) because they help you focus on learning your partner’s body and preferences. Most of them offer a lot of room to explore together, which is really what it’s all about!

1. Missionary

The classic missionary position is considered “vanilla,” but we should remember that vanilla is the second-most expensive spice in the world. It’s cultivated from orchids and is often considered a luxury item. Vanilla is not an insult!

Missionary can be anywhere from tame to tempestuous, depending on your mood. It offers full-body and face-to-face contact, which enhances intimacy and communication. It’s also not complicated or demanding physically, so you can focus on each other instead of the choreography.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with legs spread and knees slightly bent. They can place a firm cushion under their hips for support or to adjust the angle.
2. The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, between their legs.
3. The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

2. Cowgirl

Cowgirl lets the receiving partner control the angle, pace, and depth of penetration. It also lets the penetrating partner lie back and focus on their own pleasure, which doesn’t always happen in other positions.

This is fun for folks of all experience levels, of course, but it’s especially beneficial when you’re still learning what works best for you and your partner.

What We’re Doing

1. The penetrating partner lies on their back on the bed. Legs can be straight or bent; if legs are bent, the receiving partner can lean back against them for support.
2. The receiving partner straddles, kneels, or squats over the penetrating partner’s body.
3. The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

3. Spooning

Spooning is a comfortable, undemanding sex position with full-body contact. It is an intimate and connected position, which is always nice! And even though you are not face-to-face, you are still able to talk to each other easily throughout (and honestly, if you are feeling even a little insecure, it’s sometimes easier to say things when you are not face-to-face).

Spooning is also a good position to introduce a sex toy for clitoral stimulation if you are so inclined, since both of you have your hands free and good access.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies on their side on the bed, with knees bent and curled in a half-moon position.
2. The penetrating partner lies on their side behind the receiving partner, curled around them.
3. The receiving partner lifts their top leg, or puts a pillow between their knees to elevate their top leg.
4. The receiving partner arches their back and leans into the penetrating partner, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

4. Doggy-Style

Doggy-style is consistently voted one of the most popular sex positions in surveys and polls, and it’s also one of the most frequently searched terms on porn sites. You may think that it looks a little intimidating, but it really isn’t! It is a position that works pretty well for all combinations of shapes or sizes, which makes it pretty accessible for folks who are new to sex with each other.

It also allows for deep penetration and a good angle for G-spot stimulation, as well as the opportunity for clitoral stimulation with hands or toys, so it is satisfying for both partners.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner positions themself on their hands and knees on the bed, with legs slightly spread. They can put a firm pillow under their belly and hips for support.
2. The penetrating partner kneels behind the receiving partner, between their legs.
3. The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

5. Lying Doggy (Prone)

The lying doggy position offers many of the same benefits as classic doggy, such as deep thrusting and G-spot stimulation, but the prone position also includes full-body contact.

Most people like to be connected to their sexual partners, but it’s especially important when you are new to each other because it helps you learn each other’s bodies and reactions.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner lies face-down on the bed with legs stretched out and spread slightly. We recommend a small, firm cushion under the hips and belly to provide support and adjust the angle.
2. The penetrating partner lies face-down on top of the receiving partner, between their legs.
3. The receiving partner raises their hips and arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

6. Table Top

This is still a fairly easy position, but it adds a sense of adventure. When you’re new to sex with each other, it’s a good idea to explore expectations and boundaries — some folks are comfortable having sex on the kitchen table and some aren’t. Both are fine, of course, but it’s good to make sure that you’re on the same page with this and other variations.

As far as mechanics go, this really isn’t all that different from missionary (although clitoral stimulation is usually more accessible); just make sure that the table positions the receiving partner at a comfortable height for the penetrating partner.

What We’re Doing

1. The receiving partner sits or lies on a sturdy, stable table with their legs spread.
2. The penetrating partner stands in front of the receiving partner, between their legs.
3. The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

7. The 69

69 (mutual oral sex) is popular in porn, so you likely have an idea what it’s all about. We’re just going to add that porn sex, even “amateur porn”, often bears little resemblance to real-life sex, just like the chefs on the Food Channel aren’t making a week of lunches to pack for work.

69 is perfectly suitable for folks who are new to sex with each other. It’s a great way to learn each other’s preferences while pleasing each other and being pleased. Getting into position may be a bit awkward (it can even be awkward when you’ve had sex a thousand times over five years), but once you get started, you’ll forget all about it.

This is also a fine position if you want to experiment with adding sex toys to your playtime, since you’re all up in each other’s business already!

What We’re Doing

1. Partner 1 (usually the taller/larger partner) lies on their back on the bed.
2. Partner 2 straddles Partner 1’s chest, facing their feet. They can support some of their body weight on their knees/legs.
3. Partner 2 backs up so that their genitals are aligned with Partner 1’s mouth, and leans forward so that their mouth is aligned with Partner 1’s genitals.
4. Both partners perform oral sex on each other.

Maggie

Maggie Hart has written about sexual well-being and sexuality in society for quite a few years now. She is active in communities that celebrate sex for older adults.

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