4 Best Double-Sided Dildo Positions for Lesbian Couples

Double-sided dildos offer a unique opportunity for shared intimacy, allowing both partners to experience penetration simultaneously. Unlike traditional toys, these create a physical bridge that requires both partners to work in harmony.

However, because these toys often “float” without the support of a harness, the challenge is often maintaining stability and rhythm. Choosing the right position is the secret to a seamless experience. Here are the top four positions to help you and your partner master the art of the double-sided dildo.

1. The Modified Missionary

This is the most intuitive and popular position for couples. One partner lies on their back while the other moves on top. The toy is inserted into both simultaneously, keeping your bodies locked together.

The Benefit

It offers maximum eye contact and the ability to kiss and communicate easily, making the experience feel very connected.

How To Do It

The partner on the bottom should pull their knees toward their chest or rest their feet on the bed. This creates a better angle for insertion. The partner on top controls the depth and speed by using their arms and knees for leverage.

Pro Tip: Place a firm pillow under the bottom partner’s hips. This tilts the pelvis upward, making it much easier for the toy to stay securely in place for both people without slipping out during movement.

2. The Lotus

In this intimate, upright position, one partner sits cross-legged (or with legs extended) on the bed. The other partner sits on their lap facing them, wrapping their legs around the base partner’s waist.

The Benefit

This position offers the most stability. Because you are seated upright, gravity helps keep the toy seated deeply in both partners. It also requires less “thrusting” and more “grinding,” which many find more pleasurable.

How To Do It

It is often easiest to insert the toy into the “receiving” partner first while they are reclining. Once in place, the “mounting” partner slowly lowers themselves onto the other end while holding onto their partner’s shoulders for balance.

Pro Tip: This position is perfect for using your hands. Since your chests and faces are so close, you can easily reach around to provide clitoral stimulation for each other while the toy handles the internal sensation.

3. Side-Lying “Spoons”

For a more relaxed or “lazy” session, lying on your sides is incredibly effective. While you can do this “spooning” style (front-to-back), facing each other is usually much easier for toy alignment and maintaining suction.

The Benefit

It requires significantly less core strength and physical exertion than missionary or the lotus. It’s ideal for long, slow sessions where the focus is on sustained sensation rather than high-intensity movement.

How To Do It

Lie facing each other with your legs intertwined. By “scissoring” your legs (one leg over the partner’s hip, the other underneath), you can use your thighs to “grip” the toy and keep it from sliding out as you rock your hips.

Pro Tip: Use a high-quality water-based lubricant. Because there is less momentum in this position, plenty of glide is necessary to ensure that the rocking motion doesn’t cause any uncomfortable friction.

4. The Scissor Slide

This position involves both partners lying on their backs with their heads in opposite directions, or lying side-by-side but angled so their pelvises meet at a “V” shape.

The Benefit

It allows for a unique range of motion. Instead of the back-and-forth thrusting of missionary, this position encourages side-to-side grinding and “sliding” movements.

How To Do It

This works best with longer, flexible double-sided toys. By angling your bodies and pressing your pubic bones together, you can focus on the “grind,” which provides more clitoral friction alongside the internal sensation.

Pro Tip: If the toy feels too “floppy” to stay in place during this position, consider using a “dual-access” harness on one partner. This anchors the toy, providing a fixed point for the other partner to move against while still allowing both to feel the internal benefits.

Final Thoughts on Safety and Care

Using a shared toy requires a high level of hygiene. Always ensure your toy is made of non-porous medical-grade silicone, which is easy to sanitize. Use a dedicated toy cleaner or mild soap and warm water after every session. Because these toys are used by two people simultaneously, maintaining cleanliness is essential for avoiding the transfer of bacteria and ensuring a healthy, pleasurable experience for both.